September 25


His and Her Wedding Tips

By Emily Wilke

September 25, 2013


After spending the whole weekend at a Bridal Expo and with our 4th Wedding Anniversary approaching this Thursday my husband and I have been reminscing about our wedding day and planning. So we decided to co-write this blog post giving tips based on our own experiences – what we would do the same and more important what we would do differently! Hope you find this useful and amusing.

Josh’s Tips:

1) Sample lots of cake. Go to multiple bakeries and try all the different options. This is the most fun task in the wedding planning.

2) When she walks down the aisle, lean in and whisper “You look beautiful”. Let’s face it, she just spent 6 hours getting ready compared to your 30 minutes. Plus she may be nervous from all the attention. It just gets the ceremony kicked off on a good note.

3) Eat at your reception. You just spent thousands of dollars to feed scores of your friends and family. It seems obvious that you would feed yourselves, but many couples spend so much time mingling that they miss out on dinner. Feed yourselves first and then mingle.

4) Personalize your wedding so that it represents you as a couple. There are many ways to do this including creating a theme, making your own favors, writing your own vows and picking your favorite songs for the DJ to play. The more you personalize the wedding, the more people will remember it favorably.

5) You don’t have to leave for the honeymoon the next day. When the wedding is finally over, you are usually tired and broke. By waiting 6 – 9 months to take the honeymoon, it gives you something to look forward to and allows you to afford a better trip!

Emily’s Tips:

1) Have your father pick the Father-Daughter Dance song. I was so worried my dad wouldn’t dance so I gave him the incentive by asking him to pick the song.

2) Do NOT skimp on the wedding photographer!! We went with a friend of a friend and let’s just say it didn’t work out and we were down 6 glasses of wine from the open bar.

3) Take a break from wedding planning! Go on a date with your fiance and talk about your marriage, not the wedding.

4) If you have a bridesmaid causing problems it IS okay to relieve her of her duties. It is your day after all.

5) Please don’t smash cake in each other’s face no matter how many people encourage you to do so. It shows you have little respect for one another. Be kind and courteous to each other on your wedding day.

Do have tips to add? Please comment below. I would love to hear what advice you would give.


  • Wow these are superb hints, I especially like Josh’s tips, you’ve both had busy weeks and the wedding is finally here, make sure you each say something really special to each other and do make sure you eat, you need the fuel to mingle and enjoy!

    • I know we have only been married 4 years but I would love to experience the day again! We loved doing this post because we got to reminisce on the day so close to our anniversary. I would love for your referral to newlyweds you know. Thanks so much for commenting

    • Thanks Carol! It was actually his idea to do a co-written post. It was a great idea. I love it when he gets involved with what I am doing. Thanks for visiting

  • Great tips especially the one to focus on their marriage over the wedding. It can become a bit too complicated taken away the significance of the event.

    • That is my favorite tip too! I know women get wrapped up in planning for their big day and tend to lose sight to why they are planning. I tried to make sure everyday I told him that I know this is a marriage, not just a wedding and that I love him with all my heart. If he knows that, then he will be more inclined to help you plan.

  • Great tips! If I had to do it all over again I would keep the wedding simple and focus more on the marriage and each other. My husband & I will be married for 22 years next month and the wedding only lasts for such a short time – it’s the marriage that should be prepared more for!

    • Congrats on 22 years! It seems like such an accomplishment these days. My parents hit their 35 anniversary and I couldn’t be happier. I told my hubby going into this that divorce was not an option. If you say that then you know you have to work everything out and you don’t take each other for granted. Thanks so much for commenting!

  • Great tips 🙂 And very person from learned experiences. I would say you are being kind if you say she only had 6 glasses 🙂

    One I would add is be prepared to see your mother and/or mother in law turn into a tantrum-throwing/controlling/demanding person for a brief period of time. Don’t worry too much – you will recognize that person again soon after the wedding is over. Weddings seem to do something really odd to the mothers involved. My experience, anyway.

    • That is a great tip to add about the in-laws. I hope you don’t mind me using that for a future tip. Family does get weird around weddings. Maybe it is all the change and uncertainty about what’s changing. I hope my son and daughter don’t tell me that I went crazy around their weddings. Here’s to wishful thinking!

  • Oh Lord! I still remember my days, planning my weeding. This could be the most stressing event for every women. Sometimes even thought everything is going right, you freak out, and complaint about everything. I think the best thing is taking a break, like you mentioned before.

  • Awesome ideas and tips, Emily! My fav is to eat at your wedding, duh!
    Also I like the idea of not leaving for your honeymoon immediately. We waited a bit and went after a month or so after the wedding – it was awesome!

  • Great tips! We had a very small, simple wedding – then an outdoor cookout a month later – with honeymoon 6 months later. I wouldn’t have done it any other way. I was able to spread out the planning (with worked well with my then intense occupation), and spread out the finances. Plus, by keeping it small – not outside wedding drama. 🙂

    It looks like we’ll be planning a family wedding in the near future . . . I’ll book mark this for my step-daughter! 🙂

  • Genuinely great tips. I am obviously biased but I couldn’t agree more with Emily’s tip number 2. I just booked a couple who 50 days before their wedding have been let down by a friend. Luckily for them their wedding is out of peak season but if it had been an August wedding I’d have been unlikely to be able to help. As for Josh’s tip number 1…that’s the reason I became a wedding photographer in the first place – it’s the biggest supply of free cake going 😉 In seriousness though, a really sweet post with some genuinely good advice…bravo!

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